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Read this, then come back.
Guys paying for their dates meal is a long standing tradition, but it is an unnecessary throw-back to a time with more rigidly defined gender roles. Both parties would be happier if they could go dutch, at least on the first date.
If he accepts her as his equal, they have a solid base on which a future relationship could be built.
By insisting on paying her own way (at least) on the first date, a woman sends several important messages to her date. She is asserting her independence - and she can gauge her date's reaction to her independence (if his reaction is extreme, it signals that she could loose her independence in any relationship with him). Yet it also sends another, more positive, message: she is on the date to enjoy her date's company, not to gain access to his resources. If he accepts her as his equal, they have a solid base on which a future relationship could be built.
